PART 2 - Long distance Relationships

I was asked to add my views and comments on how I (we) managed to survive as a couple in a Long Distance Relationship for more than four years, and it is my privilege to contribute to my girlfriends very interesting and entertaining new blog.

First, I am white and approximately eight yrs older than the owner of this blog, who is Asian, my girlfriend and very, very sexy. I was still married back in 2006/2007 when we met online, but my marriage had been in trouble for some time already. Admittedly, I started looking for some company online, but I did not go online for any serious relationships. I was in need of some genuine company, because I am a talker and a good listener and really enjoy sharing with people. I also encourage people to share with me, which I am in a way gifted in getting them to do - opening up to me, that is! Before meeting my girlfriend, I must admit that I met some rather strange, dubious characters online, who only ended up lying to me, and more. Online friendships, romances, etc., are really a huge gamble I think, but like gambling itself, you sometimes end up winning if you keep on playing.

I was more than just lucky in meeting my online romance, and the precise way in which we met was unique, but I will skip that - for now :) I might get in trouble later when I get home!!
To add to the previous post about a LDR, I have to admit it was probably the most testing time I have ever been through in my life. We had more ups and downs than you could ever imagine, but through it all, I can honestly say that we both realized that most of the downs we experienced, came from the fact that we were so far apart. We just kept on reminding ourselves and one another of this fact. It was never because we stopped loving and wanting one another - it was only the frustrations we felt, because we could not be  together physically.

Temptations for me, as a man, there was plenty of in this time. I admit this. There was temptations online and back home as well, but somehow we both got through it all by working things out together. We talked about and discussed things that bothered us. We took one another on about doubts and suspicions we had towards one another, about our different religions, ages, and more. But, amazingly we always ended realizing full-on that we cannot be without each other. The love and attraction were just too strong. We honestly went through periods where we would stop communicating and we both started giving up on the crazy idea of ever having a life together. That was just natural I believe. We are after all, only human beings. We are weak at times, we lose confidence in life and ourselves, we distrust others, we get suspicious about everything and we just end up pushing away those we love the most.
I was lucky though! I was able to hold on to the one that I have loved for over four years now. I made mistakes. I let her down at times. I stopped believing in our love occasionally! But, through it all, we both kept on loving, never stopped wanting one another and we had another thing in common - HOPE. We never stopped hoping and praying for this day, where we can be together for real.

She has been with me in person for more than six months now, and it has been great, amazing and more. We still have things to work out and discuss, like with any other relationship, but I am confident in us. We came a long way and have been through a lot together! ...It has to mean something? Or what do you think my love? :)

Thank you for your love xx