I have been a keen follower of this Blog, for obvious reasons, since it was launched a few months ago. I have noticed and followed the various comments of visitors with some interest and I think it is safe to assume that 96% of visitors to this blog are female. Nothing wrong with that, but what I am trying to say is that it amazes me to see the variety of comments that is thrown around on here. The positive, supportive ones are my favourites and the ones where they actually attempt (pathetically I might add!) to hand out advice regarding matters and personal issues that do not involve them, or where they even more pathetically think they know what is actually going on in OUR lives, is just humorous at most...
Baby, let me tell your readers, especially people like Jacqui, who I honestly think has a name beginning with "the letter M", what the real story is here. I hope you are ok with this and that you do not edit my post afterwards? :)
I have never ever claimed to be perfect. Not perfect as a human being, and even less perfect as a man. I grew up in a Christian house where right was right, and wrong was wrong. I have "wasted" a great deal of my life on trying to please everybody else, but I also made many mistakes - too many to count. God gives us human beings more chances than we deserve and I have had my fair share. I hurt my first wife - very much! I pay for it today still...I never married for the right reasons. I have NO excuses, but at least I had the guts to get out of the relationship early on, knowing that it was heading for even bigger heartache.
I met my second wife online way back in 1998, when online chatting in South Africa was not at all a common occurrance - or so I thought. We had a 8 year age difference, but it was never any issue at all. We were very much in love and had so much in common. We enjoyed life overall and had a great first 5 or so years. We were blessed with two amazing and wonderful kids. Then things started turning bad and it got worse, then it would get better again, just to go back to being bad. Mainly my own fault I guess...I did try my best, even though it did not seem like it at times. We had financial pressures due to my son's cochlear operation he had to receive - he was born totally deaf in both ears. That was not the main reasons, I am sure...But it did put strain on the marriage. We could have made it work..We really could have! I stood in court and made the divorce formal on our 9th anniversary in 2010...It was not my proudest moment...! I will admit openly that I still love the Mother of my two children...I do believe everything in life happens for a reason and it all has a devine purpose in the end...
What I am getting at is that after all of the above transformed my life, my past and my future, I still, at 39 years, got another chance. A chance to make up for my past mistakes. A chance to redeem my past and make up for people I did and might have hurt in the last 20 years. Thank you for that chance, God...!
I truly love you baby and I do not worry or care much about the "negative advice" people are attempting to hand us on here. They think the know, but they know nothing...
Thank you for believing in me - I believe in you!
Thank you for standing by me - I will always stand by you!
Thank you for listening to me - I will always listen to you!
Thank you for looking at me like nobody has ever looked at me before - I look at you in the same way!
And Baby - THANK YOU for LOVING me - for GENUINELY Loving me xxx
P.S: I (we) invite anyone to comment please. Positive and negative, all is welcome. If you think you know me and you think you have something to say to the owner of this blog regarding my past or who you think I am, please do so. NOTHING anybody can say will break our love and respect for each other - That I know!
Now I miss my kids...See them tomorrow and cannot wait. Off to Newlands with them for some T20 :)
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this write is funny. u cant mean all this, u married before. we all no that so what make u sure she is the one when u told anothr woman the same? u told her that she the most amazing woman u met??? ure real funny man. we jy liefde maak 'n ander vrou. we wil see how honest ure. so dnt claim ure all tht. and im Jacqui not whoeever else!!! fucking put this since u brave to ask people to comment.
ReplyDeleteThis blog must be the most controversial blog on relationships I've ever come across on cyber! Interesting read and it's quite sad to see how people react. I don't know any of this couple personally but I've followed Asian Belle's blog now and then but never commented. Some comments are not called for, that's all I gotta say. I can see that Asian Belle seems collected over this whole satire which calls for applause.
ReplyDelete'Jacqui'...what can I say... Wow. Jealous much? You clearly have a lot of time on your hands to be stalking someone elses relationship. Perhaps you should invest in a vibrator. Because, no man I know would ever entertain an old bitter woman like you. I hear the Ann Summers website have a variety of toys. You should take a look.
ReplyDeleteDawie, you and Myst make the PERFECT couple as far as I can see. Everyone has a past. No matter the good or bad things that have happened in your life and past relationships, it all helped to make you the people who you are today. And I for one am so happy that you found eachother.
It doesn't matter what anyone thinks. It's your relationship. The people who truly care for you both will always support you. Anyone else is obsolete.
<3
p.s. Is it ok to leave the heart for you both or do you think we'll get accused of having a sordid affair by someone who obviously can't spell their own name so had to make up their own??? =P
Ok just to say this...... The hell crawled up jaqui's(I don't care if I got it wrong) ass and died??? I hear renting your batty out as a graveyard effects the attitude cause she seems a little insane in the membrane. Maybe its a side effect of a dual identity.
ReplyDeleteNow its kinda sad that any man has to justify himself but then with dumb bitches using the safety of the keyboard to air their bullshit I guess he felt it was necessary. Also, ye he's been married before, big whoop, shit happens, it didn't work out and he's fallen in love again. I see no issue here. What I DO see is some chick that has a problem with the fact that 2 people have found each other and want to spend their lives together. And in this big hateful world you should be happy. But no, you spout your poison in the hopes to make them as hateful as you. You know In the old days, bitches like you got burned at the stake..... Oh wait I mean witches
Morning Asian Belle, wow I think it was very brave of your BF to write that blog. I do feel a bit offended and hope you don't mind me saying it, I quote him "The positive, supportive ones are my favourites and the ones where they actually attempt (pathetically I might add!) to hand out advice regarding matters and personal issues that do not involve them,....." I went back to read the feedback on most of your blogs and from what I can see I was the "pathetic" one because I "gave advice" which by the way I did not do, if you read through what I said, you will see that I only reflected on what happenend in my life and never once did I tell you what to do or not to do, in fact I think that I told you to ignore all the negative feedback, if that is according to your boyfriend, pathetic then so be it. I found your blog interesting and started reading it and feel that if you do not want people to comment of give feedback about a subject, then why write about it. To your BF, I am sorry if you feel that I'm pathetic but I've been used and abused by men and gave my feedback on that, which you are welcome to comment on since I do not believe that all men are equal. Sorry but because of one "seemingly crazy woman" you judge everyone. Your life story is sad, but not unique and if you do not want people to read and talk about it keep it private. I really enjoyed your blog AB and I'm sorry for all the sad people out there (oh wait, I'm pathetic again giving your some advice). Iza
ReplyDeleteHi Kristine,
ReplyDeleteThanks for your comment. I appreciate it and thanks for reading/following.
Elle & PJ - you guys make a great couple. I'm sure your conversations are NEVER dull!! That said, I'm not bothered and Dawie doesn't care what other people think. It's when people (specifically 'M' and friends) start to stir things up, then that bothers me. I've been very nice and quiet about the whole thing. But now it's bordering pathetic. Well, PJ - my best friend back home and a few other friends did say that she has a resemblance of a witch.
Hi Iza!
ReplyDeleteFirstly, thanks for your comment - good to see you're back again.
Secondly, I know Dawie well enough to say that "the pathetic advisors/commentators" comment was meant for the woman and friends that have been bothering me (us). It wasn't in any way directed to you. It took a lot of guts for him to post that blog and I admire him for posting it. He very well knows that it'd get some unwanted comments but that's just the way "blog" works. He dishes it out well and takes whatever given to him, even better.
That said, I have no problem with people commenting on my blog. I wouldn't even have one if I was afraid of what people might say. I know everyone goes through a rough patch (sometimes more than just once) in their life and that whatever advice they have, it comes from their experience. Even if I do not agree with some comments, I make a point to let them know. You have probably read my comments on "EA vs. PA" blog post between me and my best friend. People are allowed to agree to disagree.
Please know that I welcome your comments anytime in whichever form you say them 'smile'
Hi Asian Belle thanks for the feedback; in no way am I trying to tell you guys what to do, but from experience I know that no matter what happened in your past and how deep you were hurt, life goes on and I hope that after this blog, people will see that he is serious about you and your relationship and leave you guys alone. I just got the feeling that somehow this "jacqui" or whatever the spelling must be woman knows either you or him very well and felt hurt or betrayed in some way, which I cannot comment on since I don't know her/you guys but from what I could read (she is not a very good speller or not english) she felt betrayed. I hope that she will also find peace of mind after what your BF wrote and see that he is serious about your relationship and leave you to live your life. Thanks for the feedback, I really do not want to interfere but I like your blog and getting feedback from you since you sound like a nice and collected lady. Oh yes, you must enjoy the cricket not long to go now?? Have a great day and weekend. Iza
ReplyDeleteMorning Everybody,
ReplyDeleteWow, it is Friday and I cannot wait for the week-end to start. Having my 2 lovely kids over and have lots planned for them this coming few days.
And what a lovely way to start the week-end by reading the "overwhelming" responses on my little post last night. Thank you everybody...
Firstly - My apologies to those who took offense from what I said. We, me and the sexy one, are very much an open, easy-going couple with NOTHING to hide from each other. We have been abused, as a couple and as individuals, by certain people who claim they know us. The idea of this blog was and is to share our own experiences with those who care, those interested in learning from our mistakes and experiences. EVERYBODY is welcome here, and it is your right to say what you want :); BUT...Do not think that we will not respond if the comments and "advice" get too personal.
Some of the followers know us better than others, and the positive comments usually come from them. I personally have NO problem with any negative comments people. It is only when the ones making these comments pretend like they know me, us or what kind of relationship we have. I you know what? They do not know us... In genaral, these people can only relate to their own experiences which most of the time they messed up in some way themselves, but cannot and will never take responsibility for their actions. They are the ones who keep blaming everybody else for their "misfortunes" in life. I admit my mistakes...I do not hide behind other people and yes, maybe I am brave, but call it arrogance, or call it plain confidence...? I know from past experience that life is never easy, but I still have the final say and that is whay everything that happens in my life stays my OWN responsibility...
I also made use of the opportunity to tell anybody who was interested - the anonymous commentators, Jacqui and friends - that I am NOT claiming anything. I am NOT innocent and I never claimed this - NEVER. Ask the sexy owner of this blog - she will confirm this xx
Therefore, if anybody thought that me and sexy are "hiding certain things" from each other, then you are mistaken. She knows everything about me - good and BAD, and I know everything about her, which is 98% GOOD, GOOD, GOOD...xx
We are truly attempting to be happy right now and I hope for as long as possible. And YES, we, especially I, do not know if all this will last as long as we wish it would, but we ain't gonna stop trying, that we can promise you - LOVE YOU BABY x
This comment is for " Jacquie" .. Whoa someone is projecting madly ! Dawie .. found his soul mate perhaps if you lose your negative attitude , you too will find yours
ReplyDeleteHave a good weekend ! Keep writing .. you are spot on . .. Ciao Suze
Anonymous comments are useless. The purpose of social media is engagement in community. If you are anonymous you are not part of the community and, your input is as valued as an annoying stranger is in a small town meeting !
ReplyDeleteCiao , Ciao missy !
Hi Suze and Neil! How are you both doing? 'smile'
ReplyDeleteThanks for the comments. It's okay - people like Jacquie make life entertaining for us. I find her entertaining now, more than anything else!
You both have a great weekend xoxo
Hi "The koi dude". Unfortunately we are not all that fortunate to own a computer or laptop I go on the internet from work and I'm not allowed to so "don't tell my boss" but that does not make me less of a person than a person with a little picture that might not be his/her own pic or a name which obviously looking at "The koi dude" says to me either your mother had a great sense of humour or you were screwballed. So to make up a name and paste a photo of your grandpa does not make you the king of the town. Shoot Asian Belle I don't know why I'm getting so worked up with the men today, please forgive me.....smile. Iza
ReplyDeletewhoa. u are a champ, d. we know ur secrets. u know which secrets. secrets which u slept with ohter women when u're with ur so called gf.
ReplyDeleteasian belle or whatever u call urself, this man of urs is fuck up. i bet he tells u he didnt sleep wif another woman. newflashs he did. typical asian girls. just mean to be maids for men. hahahahaha. gloat on that. d, people know u they dont pretend....2 women knw u very well but asina belle is not of htem.
Hey Pretty,
ReplyDeleteYes its very entertaining to us :)
See you soon. Suze
Iza ! -That comment wasn't meant for you ..
ReplyDeleteSmile life is good...
Thanks. ......smiling
ReplyDeleteAsian Belle, like the "The Koi Dude" ;-) said you cannot put any value to anything that this anonymous person is saying. As one can clearly see, this person is spiteful and says hurtful things because of jealousy, maybe hoping to break you and your BF up in the hopes of getting him herself??. You enjoy the love you and your BF have and ignore the rest. Hope you have a great weekend and one thing I can say for you is that you remain adult through all this, more than we can say about the comments of some of these :-)) anonymous children....Iza
I just want to clear something, I'm a good friend of "M" as you all call her and I've been with her the whole day, not once did we visit this blog untill just after 3 when we saw the photo that was posted and the comments by Jacqui45, Jacqui who ever you are all that I can say is that you are messing with innocent lifes and I hope you get what you deserve, to use someone elses photo to make a statement is to say the least childish and mentally disturbing. *M* is hurt but innocent she does not even wanne read this blog, so leave her alone and use your own name and photo's if you want to make a scene. You are pathetic. You made this personal so you better stop before you take this too far. Remember even anonymous people can be traced on the internet. Asian Belle, just to confirm with you and your BF *M* did not paste that photo and did not write any comments and you can take my word on that. Jacqui??? grow up please!!!
ReplyDeleteThank you guys...
ReplyDeleteJealousy and spitefulness is definitely the order of the day right now! Again, others think they know what is going on, but there are so much more to all of this, than meets the eye. We know who you guys are - we are not stupid and we can handle your abuse!! Pity your own lives are in such disarray...
Again, may I say that I am not innocent...Again, I never claimed to be innocent and if you knew the owner of this blog the way I know her, you would know that she is much bigger and better than any of this! She is the ONLY one that truly love me and that I can say with all my heart!! If she can handle all of the things people say on here, then I want nobody else...If she end up not being able to handle it, then it would be my fault and nobody elses... I love you baby..xx
Hi Iza,
ReplyDeleteThank you for your comment. I suppose it is that she wants to break us up and have him for herself, but it is still up to him at the end of the day 'smile'. I am enjoying my life with him and we both continue to enjoy our love for one another - we really have no idea what's going to happen in the future, but for now - we are truly happy and stronger than ever together. Thank you for your honest opinion and support. Have a great weekend!
My love, thank you for thinking highly of me. Everything happens for a reason, people say 'smile'. All this childish games these people are playing are nothing compared to other majot things we have gone through. I love you xx