“It looks like you are really in love with your boyfriend. Most women tend to love their partner more than the men love them. I see it that way anyway. Sicne you welcome questions and emails, I have some questions I want to ask you. What is it about your boyfriend that makes him so special? He does sound like he loves you but how sure are you that he loves you a lot and he is in love with you? I hope I’m not imposing, just curious about relationship and love. I cannot say that I have read so much love in your blog compared to others that I read. Pls don’t get me wrong, it’s a good thing. I feel that people confuse love with lust sometimes. I too feel that in this day, people are selfish and don’t focus so much on love. It’s uplifting to know that there is still people, a few of them that take love seriously. I hope to read your answers soon on your blog so others can read too. Thanx.”
Above is an excerpt of an email I received this morning.
I will try my very best to answer your questions with the utmost honesty.
What is it about your boyfriend that makes him so *special?
Where do I begin?
- He’s intelligent and that has always been a huge turn on for me.
- He knows A LOT of things and what’s even more impressive is that he would admit to things that he doesn’t know about unlike some guys I know that will go on and on about how they know things but they don’t really.
- He’s always reading up on stuff, finding new things to learn which in turn he would share his knowledge with me.
- He is very funny - really! He has a great sense of humour!!
- He admits his mistakes and apologises when he makes them which most men won’t do – speaking from experience here.
- I love it that he is not egoistic or a male chauvinist. He’s not afraid to let me see the real him. He isn’t like any other man I know – he is emotional (doesn’t hide it, pretty much everybody knows this about him – male/female friends) and very perceptive.
- He’s a great cook ‘smile’ and he does his fair share of chores.
- He makes me feel safe when I’m with him. I know he’s capable of taking good care of me and he has proven this over and over.
- He makes me smile. I love the way he looks at me and makes me feel.
- He’s a passionate man.
- He’s a great father to his kids and I could see the adoration they have for their father in their eyes.
- He’s a leader but lets me lead sometimes *ehem*.
- He’s not into the whole macho shite some men are so into thinking that would make them hot *ppfftt*.
- It doesn’t hurt that he’s amazing in bed.
- He doesn’t just say things, he puts them into action.
*These are just half of the list!
He does sound like he loves you but how sure are you that he loves you a lot and he is in love with you?
Safe to say that I can see it in his eyes and I feel the love he has for me every day. It shows through the things he has done and continues to do for me. The plans we have for the future – the many discussions we have had regarding this and many more. I know he loves me very much but how much is very much – I have no idea. All I can say is we are happy. Just like any other relationships, we have our moments and the fact that we are still going strong despite a lot of things that have happened since I got here does not shake the foundation of our love.
It’s true that most people confuse love with lust or vice versa but IMO, it’s mostly the younger people (by this I mean those below 25 or so) or those who don’t really know the difference. Whether one likes to admit it or not (most people don’t like to admit it but it doesn’t mean it’s not true!), everyone is selfish in their own way. There are things that one can tolerate and just let it be, but it could be something that others can’t tolerate so they make a huge thing out of it.
Different strokes for different people, hey.
Hi Asian Belle, hope you had a wonderful weekend, in regards to the question above, it's always difficult to answer because different people see love differently. As long as you and your boyfriend are on the same page as far as what you want from each other and the future and you're always true to one another, you've got a good thing going. I remember the years way back when a bride or groom was chosen for you and most of those marriages lasted a lifetime. I feel that if you can start a relationship on trust, friendship and honesty, the love will florish in the end. Like my mom always says, keeping love alive is the most difficult job you'll ever have to do. Best of luck Iza
ReplyDeleteHi Iza,
ReplyDeleteI had an awesome weekend, thanks! Hope yours was just as awesome :)
Ditto on your comment - as far as I know, we are both on the same page.
So true! Arranged marriages seem to last forever compared to the normal marriages. My ex's parents' marriage was arranged and they are still together (in fact, most of his mother's sibs' marriages were all arranged). Amazing, innit?
Thanks for the luck :)
I agree yes - different strokes for different people. Well written article :)
ReplyDeleteThank you :)
ReplyDeleteI know, I used to tell you that he is a lucky man, now you've proven that you my dear are a lucky woman as well :)
ReplyDeleteAB, I shared this with my husband and he wished I would write this post for him. Lol.
ReplyDeleteI wish you both well and for the love you guys have for eachother will continue to grow. I am with the above poster, you are both very lucky!!
Hey Muna, sorry for not getting back to you earlier - I am lucky, indeed! Thanks!!
ReplyDeleteLauren, thanks for the wish :) Appreciate it. I'm glad your hubby likes the blog. You should surprise him with a poem or a letter come V-day! ;)